Pure love

Life without love has no charm. It is like a lonely tree in a desert.

Similarly, a person without love is a skin-clad bone cage only.

Love consists two types as Specific and Pure.

Specific type refers to the normal love and affection among human beings. This is generally restricted to the members within a group. Example is Family.

Pure love looks beyond and extends to other life forms like Animals, Insects, Birds,etc...

Pure love has no limitations like selfishness, region, creed or caste.

It has no boundaries and in fact integrates with Nature .

Pure love shares with others.

Pure love helps others in times of grief and sorrows.

Pure love breeds enduring peace and happiness .

Discipline is Strength

Discipline is always misunderstood as "strictness" or " rules".

Actually it refers to a system or set of basic principles for our life.

Self discipline makes you a saint. 

Adherence to self discipline at all times is the difficult aspect of our life.

Making others follow such  discipline becomes the most difficult .

A person with such discipline is considered to be the noblest of all.

Here the discipline mainly comprises of the following aspects.

- practice of honesty

- possession of patience and tolerance

- readiness to sacrifice

- compassion for others

- unbiased  approach

- humbleness

- simplicity

Persons with these great qualities lived among us. They are few and far between. And they are praised as the saviours of humankind. In fact, they become Gods.

Handling Pets

Without having a pet like Lovebird, Parrot, Cat, Dog,Fish,etc..., in your house, there is no charm in life. Because, they form a source of refreshment to out sagging minds and also they prove a life of integration with Mother Nature, though in a small way.

However, exercise caution when you deal with your pets. Their fur, parasites and infections can affect you in several ways. Of these, the parasites wreck most of the damages. Major parasites are given below.
- Tapeworm can infect your vital organs like  lungs, liver , brain,etc..
-  Roundworm would impair your eyesight
-  Hook worm produces skin itches an rashes

By adopting the following precautions, you can , not only enjoy your pet, but avoid getting affected from their contact.

1) Wash hands every time
2)  Deworm your pets
3)  Wash your pets once in a week
4)   Visit the Veterinary doctor once in 6 months or when emergency arises. 

Don't Believe Your Eyes

Don't Believe Your Eyes

Generally we judge a person or thing based on what we hear or see.

That's the incorrect way of making judgement. One swallow definitely doesn't make a summer.

'A person coming out of the police station' does not mean the involvement in a crime.

'Driving a luxury car' doesn't make a person rich.

'Wearing simple clothes' should not be mistaken as a poor person.

'Speaking in another language ' doesn't make a person native of that place or region.

'Misbehaviour on one occasion' cannot brand a person as bad in nature.

Many of the crimes are borne out of circumstances. But the wrong conviction goes to make a person to repeat the crimes. If opportunities are given, many such convicts prove their worth. This can be seen from their conduct during their stay in a prison.

That's why in a Court of law, sufficient time is given to the accused to present the truth and circumstances of the crime. Only after getting both the views and evidences on the crime, judgement is made. But not based on the circumstances alone .

So next time, do not decide about a person or event based on what you hear or see only.  

Look into the circumstances and evidences and also through close monitoring , you can arrive at a fair conclusion.

Don't be carried away by Apperance

Generally we judge anything by its appearance rather than by knowing its nature or by understanding through interactions.  

That is to say " Impression by Appearance  is felt more than expression". 

But this method quite often gives us a wrong opinion about a thing or person.

Rose flower looks gorgeous but the sharp thorn underneath.
Spiny Jack fruit is hard and tough in the exterior but sweet and nutritious  food inside.
Colorful and Vase-like flowers are  attractive but swallow the visitor.
Earthworms are tiny and slimy but make the soil fit for cultivation.
Sun looks torrid and blinding but serves as the source of energy .
Hedges are prickly and dense but they form the fence.

Like wise, there are good qualities in each and every person.

Let us try to understand that and appreciate it.

This mindset of positivism is bound to be more useful to transform even a bad character  into a great person.

Beware of Diabetes

Today 14th November is celebrated as "World Diabetes Day".

Here are the most common symptoms that possibly reflect the Diabetes in you.

- Frequent urination 

- Increased thirst

- Increased hunger 

- Weakness and fatigue 

- Weight loss

- Blurred vision

-Tingling or numbness 

- Sores that do not heal 

- Infections 

- Dry, itchy, or scaly skin 

- Irritability

If you notice any of these, you may have diabetes or be pre-diabetic and should see your doctor. Being overweight or being older may also predispose you to diabetes.

For detailed information, go to http://www.diabetescare.net

You need a Qualification to criticise others

Self-criticism and pulling down others in order to feel good your self is a sign of low self-esteem.

Everyone wants a success story.

- Some get theirs by working hard

-Some by pulling down and so seeming taller.

People who are perfect would never criticise when others make mistakes. Instead, they encourage them to be more careful and avoid recurrence of such mistakes.   For instance, when the driver of your car fails to stop  before the red signal,  a Good mannered person will  say" I know you are a good driver except when you get near to the signal".

However, most of us tend to be harsh and rude when confronted with such occasions. But think a while.. If the other person (being so criticised) also becomes reactive,  no way out. Both will be  landing in a duel and end in bitter emotions and expressions. Ultimately spoiling the otherwise cordial relationship.

Especially, when the criticism emerges from a person that is inexperienced and having no basic character of himself, it's bound to create havoc on the person-in-crticism who is well experienced and more disciplined .

I have a friend giving lengthy lectures about the office discipline but failing in his own work.

So Think twice before you scold others.

Retirement

Many people think retirement is sitting at home after quitting one's job or vocation.

Actually, life starts again after the so-called retirement. 
Because it is the time when you need to reestablish  your links with the old and forgotten relationships of friendship and kinship.

In fact, it is after the retirement, a person has to take care of both self and spouse. Because
Your children  grow and like to be independent. That feeling becomes stronger after their marriage. 

Life after the retirement needs more courage and tolerance to face the moments, sensitive and ever changing.

So one needs to be active post-retirement to stay in the life race.

Without Problems , There is No Life

Feeling quite helpless. CTS checks debited to us, but actually returned. Pension less credited in many accounts. Problems over which branch has no control. Plus victim of fraud. Complaints and only complaints. Is there light at the end of the tunnel.

This is the post of a Bank employee that I recently read on Facebook.

I replied as.

The only solution is.....analyse your problems with a positive mind that you can overcome those problems.....Don't see the tunnel of darkness...try to come out of or break the tunnel itself to see the light. Because nobody has an idea of your being trapped inside the tunnel. Will power is mightier than the problem you face.

Festivals bring Peace and Prosperity

Festivals always bring pomp and cheers to all people.

Life without festival is unthinkable and boring also.

Because a festival makes people mingle and exchange ideas and experiences.In that process, the stains of strained relationships and mistrust are removed whilst the seeds of mutualism and coexistence are sown.

Diwali is the only festival of India  when everybody, irrespective of the religion or nationality or culture, feels and enjoys the most of happiness. It's the occasion for building and strengthening the  bonds of love and friendship among the varied societies  and cultures of the country.

Generally Diwali is described to be the celebration of  victory of Good over Bad and Lights over Darkness. 

The Puranas say  Lord Rama  won a glorious victory over the demon king Ravana of Lanka. After the victory, He came to Ayodhya with his dear brother Laxman and wife Sita. The people of Ayodhya celebrated the victory by lighting candles and lamps. Thus, Lord Ramachandra was congratulated.

As Diwali is considered the most auspicious day of the year, New business is started and old business is renewed from this day. People wear new clothes, distribute sweets and pleasantries to all while colorful crackers are fired to make the entire sky witness and reflect the gaiety and  splendour of the festivity.

People make every Diwali a memorable day of their life by bringing in new books, gadgets, apparels, gifts, etc.. and also by gifting the clothes, cash and other items to the less fortunate and poor people.

So Diwali is  a Festival of Give and Take of Happiness among ourselves.  Aiming for Peace and Prosperity to stay.

Remember the Help done by others

Gratitude is the apt word to convey the title of this post.

Remembering the help from others  and returning it promptly is termed as gratitude.

Sadly this characteristic is rare to see nowadays among many of us.

Who bothers to feel for even  the help rendered by others and say a humble  phrase" Thank you".

One who appreciates even the smallest help of others and repays without any expectations is a real human. 

Superior is the person who instantly forgives the mistakes of others but remembers only the good deeds . Such person will win the hearts of all.

All wrong actions will be pardoned but forgetting the help from others.

Be grateful to those who help you.